"Telling [children] that sex is ‘only between mommies and daddies’ is a lie that leads to confused, hormone-charged teenagers. Telling them that sex is ‘only something that happens when two people love each other very much’ is a lie that causes hormone-charged teenagers to confuse ‘love’ with ‘lust,’ or ‘obsession.’ It leads to leaps of logic like, ‘If I have sex with this person, we must be in love.’ Or worse: ‘If I love this person, I have to have sex with him or her.’"

Lea Grover, "This Is What Sex-Positive Parenting Really Looks Like," HuffPosts: Parents (29 July 2014)

The last sentence!!

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masons-art:

Felissimo Colored Pencils
A subscription for color pencils. This subscription lasts 20months. For about 15dollars a month. You receive 25 pencils each month all being different shades around the same color hue. The project is to enjoy the process of obtaining all 500 colored pencils and getting them each month 25 at a time.
I saw this and am going to start my subscription soon hopefully. What is better for an artist rather than collect all shades of them and display a drawing tool as a piece of art itself with a story.

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triptone:

Last night my little sister (5th grade) was making an e-mail account

She saw gender and went to click female when she noticed the “other” choice

She looked at me confused and I started to explain that some people don’t think they fit in with strictly male or female

"Oh! You mean like transgender and stuff like that. I was freaked out for a second- I thought they meant robots."

Yet another example the kids are more open-minded than adults

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"The best candy shop a child can be left alone in, is the library."

Maya Angelou  (via book-answers)

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yc-cali-mamalion:

hiddlesherethereeverywhere:

ivorysorrows:

lil-miss-choc:

bonerack:

princessnecrophilia:

weeaboo-chan:

vhscars:

protest-resources:

50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada
Use, redistribute, print. 
Click image and magnify for large version.

Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticizedfiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.

so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex
it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine
i know my shit okay

im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid

Let me
just
fucking
drop
some fucking
knowledge on you right now.
Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.
So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.
Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.
Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.
Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.
Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.

And this post is going into my bookmarks, because it is beautiful.

What scares me most is the fact that people, misinformed and ignorant people, will now try to enter the community/find play partners with the dangerous ideas of what BDSM is. They won’t respect a sub, they won’t listen.
And that can seriously hurt people. People can DIE.

All of this. Anyone who is thinking about experimenting with a BDSM relationship PLEASE do not use this book as a guide. It can be VERY dangerous if not done correctly and safely. Communication is a HUGE FUCKING PART of a BDSM sexual relationship and it is simply not catered to in this book. There are tons of fanfiction authors on here and on AO3 who do BDSM justice. They write about safe words, aftercare, consent, all of it. Go find some of those instead of using this as a guide. 


If anyone really wants to know about proper BDSM just hit me up

yc-cali-mamalion:

hiddlesherethereeverywhere:

ivorysorrows:

lil-miss-choc:

bonerack:

princessnecrophilia:

weeaboo-chan:

vhscars:

protest-resources:

50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada

Use, redistribute, print. 

Click image and magnify for large version.

Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticizedfiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.

so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex

it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine

i know my shit okay

im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid

Let me

just

fucking

drop

some fucking

knowledge on you right now.

Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.

So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.

Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.

Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.

Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.

Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.

And this post is going into my bookmarks, because it is beautiful.

What scares me most is the fact that people, misinformed and ignorant people, will now try to enter the community/find play partners with the dangerous ideas of what BDSM is. They won’t respect a sub, they won’t listen.

And that can seriously hurt people. People can DIE.

All of this. Anyone who is thinking about experimenting with a BDSM relationship PLEASE do not use this book as a guide. It can be VERY dangerous if not done correctly and safely. Communication is a HUGE FUCKING PART of a BDSM sexual relationship and it is simply not catered to in this book. There are tons of fanfiction authors on here and on AO3 who do BDSM justice. They write about safe words, aftercare, consent, all of it. Go find some of those instead of using this as a guide. 

If anyone really wants to know about proper BDSM just hit me up

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"You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better."

— Anne Lamott, Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life (via smallestworldever)

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panpolymommy:

kittenbeanie:

"bisexuals are greedy"

yes

but consider this:

corporation owners who’d pay their employees less than the minimum wage if they could

Why is it greedy to own your orientation? That pisses me off so much. Bisexuals are not greedy. In fact I would argue that bisexuals are…

I’m pretty sure the term “bisexual” has been tainted by people who enter monogamous relationships but then turn around and claim they “need” to be with someone the opposite sex of what their partner is. Like they need their fix. They have to have both penis & vagina all the time.

People like that make me sick when they say this is part of being bisexual. Um, no. Or the ones always assuming I want to be in a threesome with them and their partner when I was single, because I was bisexual. No, I don’t want to be your fuck toy while you get to be in a relationship. I want to be in a relationship.

There is a difference between being attracted to either gender because you care more about a person’s spirit.. And being attracted to anything that walks because you just want to sleep with everyone alive.

That’s why I cringe to be called bi anymore & prefer to be called pansexual.

It’s fine to be promiscuous, but it has nothing to do with your orientation. I wish people would stop equating bisexuality with promiscuity. I know so many straight people who were a lot more casual about sex than I was capable of being.

bluecohosh:

this moon is my most famous and widely spread drawing. i also based my silver “tide” pendant on it. there’s an animated gif version on tumblr with 150k + reblogs plus it’s all over pinterest, weheartit and of course instagram. uncredited. i don’t like that but it’s just how the world works and i get it, people use it for their private inspiration and mood. i’d rather it was credited to me but it’s not such a big deal. what gets to me is when companies with a large following post my work without credit — like @skinnybitchapparel . (thank you @ostaracordula for the heads up). skinnybitchapparel is an online vendor of clothing that is NOT handmade, NOT organic or recycled like my work. i’m a hard working person but i don’t make a lot of money so i’d very much prefer if fast fashion companies didn’t profit off of my creativity. sorry to interrupt your feed with this rant — i don’t do this kind of thing often but please, continue to support ethical handmade fashion and buy thrifted/vintage. and credit artists whenever you can. over and out! 
ps. if you wanna help, repost this moon and tag @naominowak and #naominowak so more people know who made it! i’d appreciate it a ton. xo
#arttheft #skinnybitchapparel #credittheartist #supportindepentdesign #fashion #illustration #moon #supporthandmade

bluecohosh:

this moon is my most famous and widely spread drawing. i also based my silver “tide” pendant on it. there’s an animated gif version on tumblr with 150k + reblogs plus it’s all over pinterest, weheartit and of course instagram. uncredited. i don’t like that but it’s just how the world works and i get it, people use it for their private inspiration and mood. i’d rather it was credited to me but it’s not such a big deal. what gets to me is when companies with a large following post my work without credit — like @skinnybitchapparel . (thank you @ostaracordula for the heads up). skinnybitchapparel is an online vendor of clothing that is NOT handmade, NOT organic or recycled like my work. i’m a hard working person but i don’t make a lot of money so i’d very much prefer if fast fashion companies didn’t profit off of my creativity. sorry to interrupt your feed with this rant — i don’t do this kind of thing often but please, continue to support ethical handmade fashion and buy thrifted/vintage. and credit artists whenever you can. over and out!
ps. if you wanna help, repost this moon and tag @naominowak and #naominowak so more people know who made it! i’d appreciate it a ton. xo
#arttheft #skinnybitchapparel #credittheartist #supportindepentdesign #fashion #illustration #moon #supporthandmade

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